Yes-definitely invisible

So, my daughter has been getting her two year molars so she has been cranky and off kilter all weekend with a fever. She went to my parents house today and I told them that she needs to nap early (usual time is 1pm). At 11am she was already looking tired.

Apparently what I say goes in one ear and out the other cause I just called to let them know I was going to pick her up at 4pm and of course she only went to sleep at 2pm cause they did not get back from the park til after 1pm!!! Why would you do that? She was tired when I left her there which was 11am. And they never have any fresh fruit or veggies in their house so what did she eat between 11am when she had lunch and 2pm when she went down?? Probably just crackers. I have to bring cut up fruit over there so I know she will get some nutrition. So, I will now be up with her til 10pm cuz she won't be tired after taking a late nap.........and yes-i just won't leave her over there very often anymore if they can't listen. I am so angry that I want to cry. I have even already had a conversation with them about this how last time they did that she was up super late at night......so my mom says "we can wake her up after two hours"...well, she shouldn't suffer cause they are morons. She has not been feeling well so I don't think waking her up when she's finally resting is very nice. Plus when you wake her up early from a nap then she is just cranky all night so I can't win either way............

Am I invisible?

I swear to God-nobody listens to me? Do you feel like your parents/in-laws don't hear a word you say? For about a year now my daughter pukes when she cries/gets upset-see earlier post. I have explained this to my in-laws a number of times. 

While she was over there today, they put her down for a nap and after an hour she woke up crying. And-you guessed it-she cried so hard that she vomited! My mother-in-law calls me to tell me this concerned that she might have the stomach flu. Can you believe that? I even said to her that nobody listens to me. I have told them so many times that she pukes cause she's upset. But she does not understand why that would happen so she doesn't believe me I guess. She is the kind of person that needs to understand in her own way why a thing happens and not the actual reason. She has asthma so this is something that comes along with it. 

Allergic to nuts

My 2 year old daughter is allergic to nuts: peanuts and cashews (and therefore pistachios). Going to a restaurant or to someone else's house for dinner is an anxiety-provoking experience. Even my own mother's!! She still put nuts on her famous salad (the only thing she "cooks") even though she is well aware of my munchkin's allergy. My in-laws kept their peanut jar right next to my daughter's treats in the cupboard! HELLOOO???? Can people really be that dense? Apparently so. 

Please exercise tact and sensitivity to those who have little ones with life-threatening allergies. Leave me a comment about this and vent away!!!!!!!!

Touche

Well, I had just finished writing how great everything was until the little one woke up screaming and proceeded to do so until 3:15am!!!! It was a horrible night!!! She only went to sleep once I forced some Motrin down her throat-then she passed away immediately. In the morning she says to me "I feel better" but she could not tell me what was wrong. It was only after speaking with a friend this morning did I realize that she is probably getting her 2 year molars!!!!! I felt so bad that I did not know that! But how could I have known. Needless to say I am very tired today and she is spending the afternoon at the grandparents house so I can take a nap. But instead of napping I am doing laundry, dishes, went grocery shopping. Ok-I need to nap now...........

Tired

I love my little one. She has been such a good girl lately. Of course she is only 2 so she is not always perfect but we went out to eat at a Japanese restaurant tonight just me and her and she was great! We don't go out to eat often due to the nut allergy but I decided to trust the restaurant that there was nuts used there and it worked out! She loved it! 

I love when she sings and dances around and her favorite saying now is "Oh my Goodness!"

Wow! Can it be that I have nothing to vent about today?????? What the hell is happening??

Omigod

Well, my husband is away this week so I am alone with my toddler. I work full time as well so let's just say that the dishes are piled up and we ate cereal for dinner last night. It's impossible to get things done especially cause she has not been feeling 100%. But when does she???

Anyways, I almost got hit by a woman in the parking lot today who ran a stop sign and then did not even apologize and looked at me like I did something wrong. Then this stupid nurse at work gets mad at me saying that I was disrespectful to her yesterday. Let's just say she is old and cranky and if you don't agree with her opinion then you are disrespectful! Bite me...I mean, I am sorry that you feel that way but it was not my intention-that's a good standard answer. I did not feel that I did anything wrong so too f%&^^ing bad!!!!!!!!!!!!

Then I went to my parents house for dinner where my mom still talks to my toddler in baby talk which drives my nuts and my dad is deaf so he talks REALLY loud. My dad made spaghetti for dinner which my little one put all over her body. That was nice. It was nice that I did not have to cook but I have to go now to put the munchkin to bed, make dinner for tomorrow, make her lunch and breakfast for daycare, do the dishes, do the laundry----who am kidding? Those last 2 things will not happen!!!!!!!!!!!!

Mommy's guilt

I love my dad. I really do. He is a wonderful man. But he can still manage to make me cry with a disapproving look or tone. I am usually pretty easy-going but ever since I had my daughter and due to my anal retentive husband-I have become a bit more.....strict-that might not be the right word. He called me to say that him and my mother are on pins and needles around us all the time when it comes to my daughter cause it seems that they cannot do anything right. I do see his point and I wanted to cry during our conversation but I held it together. The funny thing is that there are a lot of things that bug me that I have not shared and I won't now-except to you!!! One thing that annoys the crap out of me is how my mom still talks to my 2 year old daughter using a baby voice! I hate it! My husband's father talks to her without using proper grammar "get shoes on" "give mommy hug". I HATE IT AND IT DRIVES ME NUTS!!! I guess I have to let that go. 

There are some things that I cannot let go though: my daughter is allergic to nuts and I do not want her ingesting anything that even says it may contain traces of nuts but both of our moms think we are too protective. Hellooo? She could die. Why risk it???? 

Then there is her skin. Along with the nut allergy comes exzema and asthma of which she has all three. Everytime she is at either of our parents homes she comes back with more exzema and sometimes even hives or some other weird rashes. So I am really vigilant about that and tell them what soap, lotion to use. I did not realize how that made them feel when I tell them what to do.....oh well. I only have the best interest of my little one at heart.........hopefully she will go to bed tonight without puking......

Got puked on again

Well, when my daughter gets upset-she pukes. Tonight makes it twice in a week that this has happened. She will not go to sleep on her own anymore and she has every stall technique down pat-I need to pee, I need to lie in your bed, I am not tired....blah blah blah. I am so tired by 9pm that I am beggin, crying for her to go to bed. So tonight I picked her up cuz she wanted me to hold her and sing a song and she scratched my arm with her nail and I said "ow-please don't do that" and then she purposely did it again. SO I said "Mommy asked you not to do that-you hurt mommy." Needless to say - she burst into tears and almost immediately vomited all over me and herself and of course did not go to bed.........and yes-I threw it in the sink and almost clogged it again. I had to strip us both down as we had puke all over us. 

It's nice to know that she feels bad if she hurts me at least. It's 10pm and I have not even had time to eat dinner......unless a bowl of fruit loops counts.........then up at 6am to go to work. Shoot me now. I have been thinking of having another baby but after nights like tonight-I buy more condoms or abstain!

Baglady

I was telling the following story to my childless co-worker and she said to me: "It's true when you have kids you just don't care if you look like a bag lady."

I finally dragged myself to go to the doctor's which is quite a chore in itself-I have to take time off work and take the bus-we only have one car..blah blah. My wrist has been bothering me due to workplace strain and I have had something on the bottom of my foot for months.

I thought the foot pain was a piece of glass stuck in there from when my husband and father put up some mirrors in our new home and my husband dropped one of them on the floor and almost sliced his neck open.

Anyways-I was wearing my new crocs-which I love! They are the Malindi style ones. They are dressy enough for work and it was a hot day. My feet were sweaty so I kindly wiped them off with a paper towel in the doc's office while I waited for him for at least half an hour!!! When he finally saw me he looked at my foot and told me that it was a corn!!! I wanted to cry-I am getting old! Here I was thinking it was a piece of glass! He had to get a scalpel and cut it out! It had actually gone pretty deep! I was reading about corns and if you don't get rid of them - bad things can happen like ulcers! 

He covered the open wound with a band aid-and then I put my crocs back on and proceeded to walk home. Well, it was really hot that afternoon and I had my heavy work bag with me. It takes me at least 20 minutes to walk home. I made it 10 minutes before my foot was really hurting. I took my shoe off and had a look. My feet were sweating so badly that the band aid had come off and there was blood all over my foot and shoe! EWWWW! I did not have any more band aids and I was still 10 minutes from home. What could I do? I was worried about getting dirt in there and it getting infected.....ALAS, what do I have in my purse? I had a maxi pad! Yes folks....here I was in the middle of the street peeling off the backing to the maxi pad and I stuck it to the bottom of my new crocs. I was so proud of my inventive solution yet horrified at what I had become.

I made it home and then realized about half an hour later that I should take the pad out before my husband comes home to find a bloody maxi pad in my shoe-really-somethings should not be ever shared. I tried to pull it out but it WAS STUCK to my shoe. I could not get it off! I had to put it in the sink and wash it off with water!!! I still have remnants of it there............

Travelling with a toddler

Omigod! Have you ever agreed to do something with a 2 year old and you knew it was not going to turn out well? Well this is what happened last weekend. We went for a two hour car ride to visit my husband's grandma on Saturday which I am all for. After all, she is 80 something and will not live forever. I totally get it. His cousin was having a graduation ceremony at noon and it would last 2 hours.

Of course, all of the worries did flood to my mind: where, when will she take a nap? When are we going to leave to go home? She does not sleep well in the car anymore-not comfy. The ceremony is right during her nap time. She is not going to sit still for 2 hours.

I put all of my worries aside for the sake of grandma. We drove up there and that was fine. We went to the ceremony and lasted 10 minutes as my daughter would not sit still and I don't blame her. She was talking loudly so we left and took her back to grandma's house. We figured we could give her lunch and then try to get her to take a nap. To make a long story short, we tried in vain for an hour to get her to nap but of course she was in unfamiliar surroundings so I don't blame her for not. Then we notice that she has hives all over her arms! From what-to this day we have no idea! But she is allergic to nuts so everytime she gets hives or a rash we freak out.

We decided to leave at 3:30pm much to grandma's dismay as she only got to see baby for 1/2 an hour but she was exhausted and needed a nap and we did not want to stay up all night.

As soon as we got in the car she cried as she was soooo tired and she could not get comfortable. And one thing you should know about my daughter is that she pukes when she gets upset. The allergist says that is due to her asthma. Anyways, she cried and started choking-her precursor to vomiting. She would fall in and out of sleep every 2o minutes or so and we would remain still in the front seats praying she will not wake up. Her screaming was heart breaking. By the time we made it home she probably slept for a total of an hour and it was 5pm. She did not end up going to bed until 10:30pm! We were exhausted . And this was after her getting so upset and being over tired that she puked huge chunks all over me and I put it in the sink and then ran the water. Yes-I clogged the sink and I stepped in her puke in my bare feet. Fun stuff.......