Allergic to nuts

My 2 year old daughter is allergic to nuts: peanuts and cashews (and therefore pistachios). Going to a restaurant or to someone else's house for dinner is an anxiety-provoking experience. Even my own mother's!! She still put nuts on her famous salad (the only thing she "cooks") even though she is well aware of my munchkin's allergy. My in-laws kept their peanut jar right next to my daughter's treats in the cupboard! HELLOOO???? Can people really be that dense? Apparently so. 

Please exercise tact and sensitivity to those who have little ones with life-threatening allergies. Leave me a comment about this and vent away!!!!!!!!

Mommy's guilt

I love my dad. I really do. He is a wonderful man. But he can still manage to make me cry with a disapproving look or tone. I am usually pretty easy-going but ever since I had my daughter and due to my anal retentive husband-I have become a bit more.....strict-that might not be the right word. He called me to say that him and my mother are on pins and needles around us all the time when it comes to my daughter cause it seems that they cannot do anything right. I do see his point and I wanted to cry during our conversation but I held it together. The funny thing is that there are a lot of things that bug me that I have not shared and I won't now-except to you!!! One thing that annoys the crap out of me is how my mom still talks to my 2 year old daughter using a baby voice! I hate it! My husband's father talks to her without using proper grammar "get shoes on" "give mommy hug". I HATE IT AND IT DRIVES ME NUTS!!! I guess I have to let that go. 

There are some things that I cannot let go though: my daughter is allergic to nuts and I do not want her ingesting anything that even says it may contain traces of nuts but both of our moms think we are too protective. Hellooo? She could die. Why risk it???? 

Then there is her skin. Along with the nut allergy comes exzema and asthma of which she has all three. Everytime she is at either of our parents homes she comes back with more exzema and sometimes even hives or some other weird rashes. So I am really vigilant about that and tell them what soap, lotion to use. I did not realize how that made them feel when I tell them what to do.....oh well. I only have the best interest of my little one at heart.........hopefully she will go to bed tonight without puking......